August 1st, 2011

I feel defensive. Putting g-spot on my list of things I don’t know about makes it look like I have sex problems. If I did, that would be normal. I could write about g-spot from that stance. That might help people, or help me work through the problems.

Is it okay if I am defensive? Can I just tell you that I don’t have sex problems? I don’t. No, seriously, I really don’t. But somehow, I just didn’t really understand g-spot. I didn’t know what it was, where it was, or why it was called a g-spot. When you reach a certain age, you think you should know your body pretty well, so you stop asking questions. You think: I graduated sex ed in more ways than one, I should know this. When I teach sex ed to my fifth graders, I encourage the girls to use a mirror to check out their equipment. I don’t want them graduating not knowing how many holes they have down there. They get embarrassed. I get embarrassed. Americans, descendants of puritans, get easily embarrassed about sex and the human body. But this blog is about confronting shame and getting the facts… of life!

My cousin Liz is an amazing filmmaker. In her investigative documentary, Orgasm Inc: The Strange Science of Female Pleasure, Liz confronts the medical industry and marketing campaigns that take advantage of women and endanger their health. Liz was initially creating a documentary about female pleasure, and has conducted research on this topic for years. I was visiting her in Vermont and after peeking through her bookshelf, I decided it was time for me to do a little confronting of my own.

I have admired Liz for so long, since birth! Wouldn’t it be easier to look through her books? To Liz I have to admit that I don’t know about the g-spot? On Liz I have to turn the camera, even though she is the supreme filmmaker?

Luckily, with her usual enthusiasm, she agreed to be interviewed. She even recommended this aerial shot which I got by making her lay down on a bed and standing with her in between my legs.


Part I- Fundamentals of the G-spot

Part II- Liz on Sex Ed

It’s in the vagina, but in no specific place.
It can become hardened when engorged, and cause intense pleasure.
It was named after Ernst Gräfenberg, a German gynecologist who wrote about it in 1950.
There’s controversy over its existence.
Scientific tests have shown no evidence.


2 comments to “G-Spot”

  1. Fantastic! I’m so glad that people are talking about this stuff, Eve Ensler would be proud. I’m loving your writing and looking forward to more, it seems you and I have a similar list of things we are working on knowing more about.

  2. Hummm. You didn’t know about the g spot. (Is this my fault?)

    nice interview.

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